Despite breaking free from her "cult-like" upbringing, Jinger Duggar continues to struggle.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo, star of 'Counting On,' has released a new book titled 'People Pleaser: Escaping the Weight of Unrealistic Obligations.'

Despite breaking free from her "cult-like" upbringing, Jinger Duggar continues to struggle.
Despite breaking free from her "cult-like" upbringing, Jinger Duggar continues to struggle.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo and her husband left their strict household in Arkansas, but they didn't find salvation in Texas.

"The 31-year-old, who had spent two and a half years in Laredo, Texas, shared with Planet Chronicle Digital how one of the women in their community had expressed regret about not getting to know them better before they left."

"I had been so guarded due to fear of people's judgment, so I kept up a performance to hide my hard days. I was afraid that if they knew I struggled, they wouldn't like me. Perhaps they thought I was insecure because of my upbringing in a tight-knit community where it was cult-like in many ways."

People Pleaser book cover
Jinger Duggar Vuolo's new book, "People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations," is out now. (Thomas Nelson)

A woman with two children, who is pregnant with her third, has authored a new book titled "People Pleaser: Escaping the Weight of Unrealistic Obligations."

Her 2023 book, "Becoming Free Indeed," served as a follow-up to her decision to leave her former church.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo wearing a white blouse and smiling.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo's first book, "Breaking Free Indeed," came out in 2023. (Caroline Love)

"The former "Counting On" star revealed that they exposed the harmful teachings they were raised under, but then they realized that their fear of losing their community, friends, family, and loved ones prevented them from speaking on the topic."

Jinger Duggar wearing a white shirt with her back turned and smiling at the camera.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo is the sixth-born of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar’s 19 kids. (Caroline Love)

"I believed that speaking out against them would put everything at risk," she admitted. "As a people pleaser, I was most afraid of facing their disapproval."

Bill Gothard, a renowned Christian evangelist, established the Institute for Basic Life Principles (IBLP) in 1961. Through its Bible-based seminars, the organization has taught various subjects, including conflict resolution and financial success, across the country.

Jinger Duggar discusses her experience of escaping her parents' control over their religious beliefs.

Jinger Duggar opens up on escaping manipulation and control of parents' religious beliefs

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, devoted IBLP followers, raised Duggar Vuolo with the belief that women should submit to their husbands and avoid activities such as dancing, dating, and engaging with pop culture, as previously reported by People magazine.

The Duggar family gathered together and smiling.
The Duggar family chronicled their lives in the TLC reality TV shows "19 Kids and Counting" and "Counting On." (D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra)

Neither IBLP nor Gothard responded to Planet Chronicle Digital's request for comment on Duggar Vuolo's first book.

In 2017, Duggar Vuolo left the church and relocated to Texas. However, her decision to publicly discuss her experiences in "Becoming Free Indeed" was not met with approval by all.

"Although it was challenging, I realized that I had to speak my truth, even though I faced criticism from friends and loved ones," she said.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo wearing a matching pink dress with her daughters.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo is shown with her two daughters. She is due to give birth to her third child in March. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

"Despite the challenges, a majority of them were assisted by what I said. They realized that they had not considered the accuracy of these teachings."

Jinger Duggar smiling and being held by her older sister Jill Duggar
Jinger Duggar Vuolo is seen with her older sister Jill Duggar. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

"Sharing my story and helping people escape the cult-like teachings I was raised under has been the most rewarding thing," she stated. "In hindsight, I could have remained silent as a people pleaser. However, many individuals would still be trapped in those teachings. It has been more encouraging than anything to witness the number of people who have been helped by my openness."

Dugger Vuolo stated that leaving led her to new anxieties and difficulties. She felt an unyielding desire to be the ideal spouse for her husband, Jeremy Vuolo, after their marriage in 2016.

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Jinger Duggar Vuolo and her family moved to Los Angeles in 2019. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

"I was so deeply influenced by Bill Gothard's teachings that I struggled to express my own thoughts and opinions. I found it difficult to think independently and often prioritized pleasing others, including my spouse, as per those teachings. This was done to avoid conflict and maintain a harmonious relationship."

Jinger Duggar Vuolo in a blue and pink plaid shirt sitting on a beige chair and leaning towards her husband Jeremy Vuolo in a blue suit.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo and Jeremy Vuolo married in 2016. They moved to Texas before calling California home. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

Duggar Vuolo said Jeremy, 37, was dumbfounded.

"She remembered how he reacted with, 'This is insane,' when she expressed her opinion. She was always afraid to voice her differing views, big or small, as he wouldn't tolerate it. He demanded to know her thoughts, beliefs, and inner workings, and she felt like she couldn't be a carbon copy of him. It was only then that she realized that disagreements didn't mean rejection. In fact, if she disagreed with her spouse, it wasn't a negative thing."

A close-up of Jinger Duggar wearing a blue sweater and a black shirt surrounded by her siblings.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo, seen here in 2014 with her siblings, still has a close relationship with God. (D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra)

She continued, "I realized I needed to be independent in my thinking and express my opinions openly. Jeremy supported that in our relationship and created a safe environment for me to share my thoughts."

Jeremy Vuolo and Jinger Duggar Vuolo smiling for a selfie.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo said her husband, Jeremy, encouraged her to speak her mind and not be a perfect wife. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

"I believe that being able to speak up and share my experiences with people-pleasing ultimately led me to a place where I could expose the teachings of Bill Gothard. When we are given the freedom to speak up, we can be more loving because we can protect the most vulnerable and speak out against bullies."

Postpartum depression from her first pregnancy prompted Duggar Vuolo to open up about her anxieties to others. The couple have daughters Felicity, 6, and Evangeline, 3.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo in a blazer and a white outfit posing with her husband.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo told Planet Chronicle Digital she began to speak out about her struggles with other people after learning she had postpartum depression. (Michael Kovac/Getty Images for Discovery Channel)

""I was unaware of the extent of my workload until I started discussing it with Jeremy and my friends," she admitted."

Jinger Duggar Vuolo wearing a matching brown sweater and slacks with a wide hat
Jinger Duggar Vuolo said she's still "a work in progress." (Caroline Love)

"As I peeled back the layers of my former church's teachings, I came to the realization that they were not based on the Bible, but rather a man's perspective. These teachings were rooted in fear and superstition, keeping me trapped in a state of paralysis. I realized that my inability to love others around me was a direct result of my own fear.

"I yearned for solitude... My upbringing in the public eye from the age of 10 imposed a unique kind of pressure on me... I was terrified to express myself because Bill Gothard believed we must always maintain a flawless smile."

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Jinger Duggar Vuolo said that growing up she wasn't allowed to wear pants and couldn't listen to music that had drums. (D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra)

Duggar Vuolo and her family relocated to Los Angeles in 2019. Since then, she has experienced a sense of liberation and has formed many supportive connections. Additionally, she has embraced new adventures.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo smiling outside in the snow.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo at Soledad Canyon, Calif. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

Even though it contained drums, we were prohibited from listening to it because it could be harmful to us," she stated. "My children enjoy dancing... That was disapproved of. But I came to the realization that God has given us numerous wonderful things to enjoy. And yet many of those things were deemed inappropriate.

"Seeing my kids brings me freedom and joy. One of my little girls wants to do 'princess ballet.' I wouldn't have been motivated to do any type of dance. But now, I witness their individualities flourish."

Jinger Duggar Vuolo in a periwinkle turtleneck with her arms folded
Jinger Duggar Vuolo told Planet Chronicle Digital being scrutinized after appearing on a reality TV show made it difficult for her to make friends in her community. (Courtesy of Jinger Duggar Vuolo)

One of the biggest challenges for me was distinguishing truth from falsehood," she emphasized. "I no longer feel the need to adhere to strict rules, such as avoiding pants, listening to music with drums, or going to movie theaters. My desire to live a life that honors God is not driven by fear.

"I now view God as a loving, heavenly Father rather than a domineering taskmaster. This allows me to fully appreciate the gifts and blessings in my life. If I had continued to live in superstition and fear, this clarity would not have been possible. Now, I can see God as I should."

Duggar Vuolo shares a strong bond with her mother, which is why she dedicated her second book to her. On the other hand, her relationship with her father is complex.

Jinger Duggar sitting down with her sisters as one holds a baby.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo told Planet Chronicle Digital not all of her loved ones were supportive of her speaking out. (Ida Mae Astute/Disney General Entertainment Content via Getty Images)

Family relationships can be challenging," she stated. "Having a large family means dealing with diverse personalities, which can be difficult to manage. I've come to realize this after some time. We may have different opinions, but that's okay.

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Jinger Duggar Vuolo dedicated her new book to her mother. She told Planet Chronicle Digital that her relationship with her father is "complicated." (Peter Kramer/NBCU Photo Bank/NBCUniversal via Getty Images via Getty Images)

"Despite not always agreeing on things, I still want to maintain a good relationship with my loved ones by showing them love and respect. This may involve being honest and having different viewpoints."

Duggar Vuolo's life is not ideal, but she wouldn't change it for anything.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo wearing a sleeveless navy blue dress.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo hopes her book will help others spot the tell-tale signs of people-pleasing. (Vivien Killilea/Getty Images for Lionsgate)

"Ultimately, you desire to live a life that fully expresses your true self, as God intended you to be," she stated.

The Associated Press contributed to this report.

by Stephanie Nolasco

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