Reddit user stunned by the actions of the bride and groom at their wedding: "They are completely insane"

Reddit users advised the cousin to skip her cousin's wedding, while an etiquette expert told Planet Chronicle Digital that the couple's plans violated etiquette norms.

"Joyousfoodie" shared on the "r/WeddingShaming" subreddit that the couple's wedding ideas were quite unusual, such as sending out cards to people who were not invited before the event.

The woman mentioned in the post that her cousin is getting married soon and they are planning a small garden wedding.

"She mentioned that the wedding is a semi-destination, approximately five hours away, and was planned to be small with only family and friends due to budget constraints."

Although joyousfoodie is content with the wedding's location and scale, there are certain aspects of the upcoming event that she finds troubling.

She wrote that she discovered the wedding couple are sending "cards" to those not invited to their wedding, including a message that "you are in our hearts on this special day" before the ceremony.

""Their excuse for not attending the wedding is to satisfy their curiosity and consider them, but what I don't understand is why they sent it before the wedding," joyousfoodie wrote."

Joyousfoodie discovered that she and other wedding guests will be assigned tasks on the wedding day.

"I got a text from the couple saying that ‘everyone has a role to help set up.'"

"The couple sent me a text stating that 'everyone has a role to help set up. After the ceremony, the wedding party will depart to take photos while the guests will arrange the tables for the reception.' I was taken aback and exclaimed, 'What?'" - joyousfoodie.

She stated that the couple never inquired if their guests were willing to assist and instead commanded them on what to do.

The couple stated that guests are willing to spend money on gas and hotels to assist with the wedding setup.

The Reddit user expressed frustration in her post, stating that there was a lack of respect, etiquette, and morals in the situation. Despite claiming financial constraints, the user felt that they had ample time to save up for hiring help.

Instead of saving for their wedding, joyousfoodie said that the couple "went traveling instead."

On the day of the wedding, joyousfoodie stated that the couple's parents will "run errands for them," including picking up the cake and the flowers.

Although the bride desires to invite her friends to the bridal shower, some of these friends are not included in the wedding guest list.

In her post, the woman wished for good fortune on her upcoming wedding.

Planet Chronicle Digital reached out to joyousfoodie for updates or additional comments.

A wedding etiquette expert informed Planet Chronicle Digital that the couple's wedding plans did not conform to most social norms.

Rosalinda Randall, a California-based etiquette expert, stated in an interview with Planet Chronicle Digital that the couple's "intent for sending the notification may have been genuine. However, it could have been received as a slight or backhanded compliment."

It is more respectful to share news of a wedding after the ceremony has ended, she stated.

Instead of sending a card before the wedding, the couple could either make a post on social media announcing the nuptials or send a "post-wedding postcard."

"She suggested adding a note that read, 'Our celebration was modest. We regret not being able to invite everyone. Thank you for your kind words,'" he said.

Randall stated that it appears increasingly acceptable to request financial contributions for personal events such as weddings, work equipment, and trips.

I believe that people are generous and willing to help. However, if you're seen shopping at designer stores, dining at fine restaurants or getting your high-end car detailed, I would find that 'unsend' button ASAP.

The post shared by joyousfoodie was met with shock among other Reddit users, who tagged it as "tacky."

Many people said they simply would not attend.

""I might skip this wedding because it seems like a trainwreck," said "trashbinfluencer" on Reddit."

Trashbinfluencer said it was wrong to expect guests to help set up.

"I have no words for non-invitation wedding announcements (cash grabs?)," trashbinfluencer said.

Andronicuspark" described the wedding as "a poor effort at a gift grab.

Andronicuspark said, 'I'm sorry you couldn't attend, thinking of you! (Fingers crossed),' and advised joyousfoodie to skip the event.

When you realize you're sick and don't go, it's because the hosts are being terrible and it's gross," said user "byteme747.

"I regret to inform you that they are out of their minds."

"Obrina98" expressed their lack of interest in attending the event, stating that their only reason for going would be out of morbid curiosity.

The person added, "Tacky, tacky, tacky!"