Following a 'terrible' weekend, woman refuses to host family member's children again at her home.
In a viral post, a woman questioned whether she was in the wrong for not allowing her kids to stay at her house again.
The woman on social media described a "terrible" situation involving her brother's children, explaining why she won't let them stay at her place again.
Over 1,500 comments have been posted on the personal drama, which has garnered over 5,500 reactions.
The woman, who is 32 years old, shared on the "AITA" Reddit page that she resides in a "nice, cozy home" that she has worked hard to maintain.
Her brother, who is 34 and has three kids aged 10, 8, and 6, asked if they could stay at her place for the weekends a few months ago because he and his wife needed a break.
The woman agreed, stating that she wanted to bond with her nieces and nephew.
That was a mistake, apparently.
The "weekend turned into a nightmare," she wrote.
"The children became uncontrollable, shattering a vase given by my deceased grandmother, staining my white couch with juice, and marking the walls with crayons."
Despite my efforts to control the situation, whenever I instructed them to cease or established limits, they disregarded me entirely.
"He didn't offer to help clean up or replace anything."
She reported the "damage" to her brother and he "just laughed it off and said, 'Kids will be kids.' He didn't offer to help clean up or replace anything."
She shared that she felt "really hurt" but didn't make a big deal out of it at the time.
He's asking if the kids can stay over again because they want to go on another weekend trip.
The woman stated that she "informed him of my decision, providing details of the previous incident and expressing my unwillingness to repeat it."
He became extremely angry, claiming that I was unfairly punishing his children for being children.
My parents are involved," she wrote, "and they're saying I should 'be the bigger person' and help out my brother. They say the kids are sorry and just want to spend time with their aunt. But I'm still traumatized by the last time they were here.
"They do not live in your home. You have no obligation."
Did I do the right thing by not allowing them to stay at my house again?
In the top "downvoted" response on the platform, a user wrote, "This is utterly ridiculous. You are not these children's parent, and they do not live in your home. You have no obligation to care for them except in an emergency."
The person added, "It's understandable and acceptable to say that you can't handle having them in your home due to your previous experience."
Your grandchildren could spend the weekend with your parents.
If you want to assist, you could remain at your brother's residence for the weekend.
"Why don't your parents take in their grandchildren for the weekend?"
"By allowing the kids to scribble on their own walls, you can keep them at home. Additionally, your brother may compensate you for this task."
The alternative version of the input sentence is: "Another user on the platform responded to that reply, writing, 'That last paragraph is a genius remedy.'"
Another person on the platform commented, "Although kids are kids, they should not be destructive. It seems that the couple needs a break because they struggle to manage their unruly children."
Planet Chronicle Digital reached out to a psychologist for insights.
Lizzie Post, co-president at the Emily Post Institute and co-author of "Emily Post's Etiquette, The Centennial Edition," advised against assuming that anyone with experience watching kids is available or willing to spend their time caring for your children on the issue of family members watching the children of others within their family unit, according to a recent article on the Scary Mommy website.
Although many people believe that grandparents, aunts, uncles, older cousins, and siblings will assist with child care, "it's a significant request."
Every child care arrangement is unique and requires individualized discussion.
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