After husband destroys her terrarium, woman cancels anniversary trip.

Fellow Reddit users agreed that a woman who canceled her anniversary plans after her husband accidentally destroyed a treasured terrarium was justified in doing so.

"Tiny-Pen-2289" posted on Reddit's "Am I the A--hole" subreddit on Jan. 31, 2024, asking if they were the A--hole for canceling their anniversary trip because their husband drowned their terrarium.

Recently, a 29-year-old woman traveled across the country to visit a company that offered her a job.

The woman toured the company for two days to determine if it was the right fit for her after years of self-employment. She then visited her sister (32f) and her family a few towns over, noting that she doesn't see her sister often.

For eight days, Tiny-Pen-2289 was away from home, and upon her return, she found out that her husband had destroyed one of her cherished items.

The woman wrote about her favorite possession from her mother, a large closed bioactive terrarium made 15 years ago.

She said the terrarium was her "pride and joy."

She stated that her plant was always healthy and attractive, requiring minimal maintenance and watering, which she believed her husband understood.

While she was away, her husband sealed the vessel with a few cups of water.

"The plants were dying and molding due to rotting roots," she stated.

"I became so enraged that I broke into tears, which led to a heated dispute because 'it's just a plant' and 'all you do is observe it.'"

The woman said that her husband called her "ungrateful and overdramatic," despite his insistence that he was only trying to help and didn't want to disturb her during her trip.

"I was so mad I cried, and it turned into a huge argument because ‘it’s just a plant' and ‘all you do is look at it anyway.’"

After returning from her trip, Tiny-Pen-2289 and her husband planned to take a luxury train trip to celebrate their anniversary, as her husband is a big train enthusiast.

She canceled their anniversary plans due to being upset and wanting to save the plants, which would take time.

When I informed my husband, he became enraged and is now avoiding me, sleeping in a separate room.

Tiny-Pen-2289 stated that he believed I was being petty and attempting to ruin our marriage, according to him.

She asked others, "Am I being oversensitive about my plants?"

She wrote that her friends were evenly split about the situation and hoped Reddit users could weigh in on the drama.

Tiny-Pen-2289 and a family therapist were also contacted by Planet Chronicle Digital for additional comment and updates.

The AITA subreddit allows users to respond to posts and designate the poster as "NTA," "YTA," "NAH," or "ESH."

Users can "upvote" comments they find helpful, and "downvote" those they do not.

Over 3,900 individuals answered Tiny-Pen-2289's post, with the majority supporting her choice to cancel her anniversary vacation, declaring her "NTA."

Numerous Reddit users questioned the sincerity of the husband's actions of "assistance."

"I believe that NTA, and I am not convinced that your husband was attempting to assist you," stated Reddit user "deathandtaxes2023" in the most popular comment.

If you have only opened it a few times, then he knows it doesn't get watered that often. Additionally, he knows how much it means to you, so he should have known that you would have taken care of it before you went or would have left very detailed instructions.

Even if he was being helpful, the amount of water added was likely too much for a terrarium.

"The 'you just look at it' remark is also peculiar - that's what everyone does with their plants," said deathandtaxes2023.

Others had a harsher view of the husband's intentions.

"He intentionally killed something you love, and he didn't forget. NTA," said one Reddit user.

"He maliciously killed something you love."

"Kitchen_Victory_7964" said, "Yeah, agreed — he did this on purpose to kill something [you] loved."

Tiny-Pen-2289 was cautioned by a commenter that her spouse might be "enjoying being abusive or attempting to drive you away."

He "has no intentions of treating you well," said Kitchen_Victory_7964.

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