A guest who left a dry wedding to go drinking is defended by a therapist on Reddit.

A therapist advised that better communication between the couple and their guests could have prevented most problems, even though a Reddit user who left a dry wedding to go out drinking with college friends did not necessarily do the wrong thing.

"Radiant_List_9993" asked if they were the A--hole for leaving a dry wedding early to go out on July 15, on the AITA Reddit page.

Two weeks ago, the user's husband and she attended a wedding in their college town for a friend they knew from college.

""We rented a VRBO with a couple I went to college with, and we were thrilled to have some time away from the kids," she wrote."

As they arrived at the wedding, the couple discovered that things were not as they had anticipated.

""The wedding ended at 11 [p.m.] and the after-party continued at the mansion with the bride and groom," she wrote."

The reception started an hour after the ceremony, which began at 5 p.m.

Upon their arrival at the wedding, Radiant_List_9993 and her husband discovered that no alcohol would be served, as the groom had been abstinent for two years.

""We were disappointed when we discovered there was no alcohol at the party, so we told people we were going to some bars instead," she said."

So Radiant_List_9993 and her husband left the wedding at 9:30 p.m., as they were eager to leave and the wedding was uninteresting.

The bride's friend group did not stay for the party, while the groom's did, resulting in an imbalanced atmosphere at the celebration.

The bride was upset that her friends left, Radiant_List_9993 wrote.

She claimed that she didn't feel supported and her friends were holding her husband accountable for his sobriety, she stated.

She accused me of overanalyzing the situation, but all we wanted was to have fun. She is particularly upset with me because I am seen as the leader of this outing.

Radiant_List_9993 stated that she believed she acted correctly and invited Reddit users to share their opinions on the matter.

Planet Chronicle Digital reached out to the woman for any updates.

The majority of the over 3,000 responses to the post on Reddit were negative regarding Radiant_List_9993's handling of a dry wedding.

"She is committed to supporting her husband throughout their marriage, yet you can't support your friend for an additional 1.5 hours? Life is about more than just doing what you want," wrote Reddit user "starbiebarbie99" in the top "upvoted" comment.

We may need to attend tedious gatherings to honor the individuals we care about. Suck it up.

Others concurred.

"Reddit user "Alternative-Gur-6208" stated, "If you had simply left without causing a fuss and discussing it with others, you would have received a more favorable judgment.""

Unfortunately, you were the one who told all the friends that the event sucked and you were leaving to go get drunk, and became a ringleader for the group of friends to follow.

Another person remarked, "Ok-Acanthaceae5744," "That's a terrible way to treat a friend. It seems like you all abandoned the wedding celebration, and I assume she was excited to celebrate her wedding with her friends."

""Although you may feel tempted to drink at weddings, it's important to prioritize celebrating and supporting the marriage of your friends and family over getting drunk," advised Ok-Acanthaceae5744."

Rachel Goldberg, a Los Angeles-based therapist, offered a different perspective in comments to Planet Chronicle Digital, while Reddit users were largely critical of how the woman handled the situation.

Goldberg emphasized the significance of communication and setting realistic expectations in this scenario, as she stated in an email to Planet Chronicle Digital.

"The bride should have informed her guests in advance that the wedding would be dry and conveyed her hopes and expectations, such as guests staying longer or appreciating the sober nature of the event."

If the event had been alcohol-free, guests could have had a discussion about whether they wanted to attend and come up with alternative plans, such as allowing some alcohol later in the evening or having a shorter celebration followed by morning brunch, she said.

Goldberg stated that she "wasn't wrong for leaving" the wedding because she "had certain expectations."

She opted to make the most of her trip when her expectations weren't met.

On the other hand, the bride felt upset because her special day didn't go as she had hoped, and she was disappointed that her friends didn't show up for her as she expected.

Had the bride and groom stated that their wedding reception would not serve alcohol, all these issues could have been avoided, according to Goldberg.

Knowing her friends' preferences beforehand could have helped avoid misunderstandings if better communication had been established, she stated.