A family conflict arises when a woman requests a break from hosting Thanksgiving, prompting accusations of selfishness.

Despite her generosity, a woman who is 40 years old and has a large family feels the need to take a break from hosting Thanksgiving at her home after many years of doing so.

Over 700 comments were logged on the social media post by Sunday morning, with a total of over 2,500 people reacting in a brief timeframe.

"I am 40 years old and have six sisters," wrote "Acemer0904" on the "Am I the a--hole" (AITA) forum.

She is the one who hosts Thanksgiving at her house for a full decade in her close-knit family with two older sisters and four younger sisters.

Hosting gatherings with multiple families, each having at least two children aged 5-15, can be overwhelming, but it's also a joyful experience.

She stated that although her husband assists her with the task, the bulk of the planning, cooking, and organizing is her responsibility.

This year, with life being as busy as it is and feeling burnt out, she decided she needed a break. Between her work, caring for her children (10, 11M), and other responsibilities, she was not up for the task of hosting a big family gathering. So, she suggested that one of her sisters take over hosting Thanksgiving this year.

They're "dealing with a lot of stress" and don't "have the energy to host."

In a family group chat, when she proposed her idea, thinking it was a reasonable request and it was ahead of time, her two older sisters were not receptive to it.

She wrote in her post that they were not satisfied with the concept.

They claimed they were either occupied or had limited space, or they were under a lot of strain and lacked the energy to entertain.

The two older sisters recommended that the sister repeat the activity this year to maintain the tradition, as she has mastered it.

Despite the woman writing that the younger sisters were more understanding, none of them volunteered to host this year.

The woman wrote on Reddit that she is sticking to her decision and stated that she needs someone else to host this year. Although I suggested we could make it a potluck to lighten the load, that did not work either.

The woman wrote that she was "accused by two older sisters of being selfish and abandoning a family tradition that I have upheld for years."

There is "tension in the family, with my older sisters feeling like I’m letting them down."

"I was the most experienced among them, and they believed that hosting Thanksgiving was crucial."

My older sisters feel like I'm letting them down, causing tension in the family.

The woman in her Reddit post argued that she has done her part over the years and deserves a break, but she also understands that her sisters are under a lot of stress and hosting Thanksgiving is a significant responsibility for their family.

She queried others on social media about whether it is acceptable for her to decline hosting Thanksgiving this year, despite having done it for the past ten years.

She added in her post that one of the older sisters is responsible for handling Christmas every year.

I believe it's reasonable that she doesn't want to celebrate both holidays.

"Props to you for standing up for yourself."

She observed that her sister, who hosts Christmas, does not cook and instead hires a catering company. Despite this, it is still a significant responsibility to manage.

An etiquette expert and a psychologist were contacted by Planet Chronicle Digital for their opinions.

Rewritten: "Your sister is using the excuse that she's stressed to justify not doing her fair share, but welcome to adulthood where we're all stressed."

You may suggest a potluck at someone else's house and offer guidance for those who decide to host. However, that would be the extent of your involvement. You have already gone above and beyond.

You were commended for asserting yourself.

Another person responded to the drama by saying, "Thanksgiving is a lot of work. Your sisters are using 'tradition' as a way to control you and make you do a lot of work without any appreciation or compensation."

I think you've been too nice. Lay it out frankly.

Either hosting Thanksgiving becomes more equitable or you won't host your sisters again.

Another person shared a suggestion for the Reddit poster.

"It's intriguing how these supposed family traditions hold such significance for those who decline to contribute to the substantial effort, time, and expense required. Perhaps you can enjoy a pleasant meal at a restaurant with an array of options and have a leisurely day."

Their selfishness is just as valid as your stress.